Why often love marriage becomes a failure???

When a guy and a girl fall in love, they get into the world of dreams and fantasies. They always fantasize and they live in a dream world. They are always away from reality, the real world outside. In love always the physical appearance play the vital role and they fail to see the real person inside. As the acts of love have
to take different levels and intimacy they get into different levels of intimacy and it culminates in physical relationships. In love relationship they enjoy all kinds of pleasures and they even have sex.

Once they are married and start living, the world would be entirely different and whatever they have dreamt of and fantasized are turned to be an abstract reality. Not even 10% of what they have dreamt of would come true. As they had all kinds of pleasures possible, even they can’t have any newness in anything and not even in the physical relationship, because everything is known and experienced already. Each one will start accusing the other saying that it is because of you that I landed up in this relationship otherwise I would have got a nice and smart bride or bridegroom, as a result of all these misunderstanding, dislikes and aridity in love life, on a fine morning the relationship collapses.

Where the intense love is disappeared to? Where are all those promises gone?

I don’t contempt that all love marriages end in calamity. There are many love marriages that culminate in great success, for that great dedication, awareness of reality, maturity; self discipline and control over one’s emotions are required. Many youngsters lack all these qualities. When youngsters who are so immature and less dedicated and less sincere in relationship, get into any love affair definitely it will collapse. Starting point of any love affair is mere attraction and fantasy. Many youngsters fail to convert the attraction and fantasy into real and concrete love. Thus the real success of any love marriage is the conversion of attraction and fantasy into real love and reality. Otherwise all the love affairs will be very far away from the real love and end in calamity.