I
am forced to think that most of the phobias that we have is the end result of
parenting and socialization. Most of the parents to make the little kids
obedient and disciplined, who is otherwise very much naughty and mischievous, would
tell them that don’t do this and that, if you disobey their parents the ghost or
evil spirit would come and trouble them. What is taught in childhood would have
a long lasting impression and ill effect in one’s life, the inculcated phobia
is going to be there in the mind of the kids for the ages to come.
Thus,
the seed of phobia that is cultivated in the fearless mind of the kids would
badly affect in the mental and physical growth and wellbeing of the child. Probably
the intention of the parents is just in itself but the means and ways they
adapt to keep the little kids obedient and disciplined would be totally
unscientific and informal as far the psychological disposition of the child is
concerned. Employing unscientific and not psychologically approved methods by
parents in growing up the child and to keep him/her obedient and disciplined
would leave long lasting ill effect in their psychological and mental fabric of
the child as well make him/her phobic.
I
think everyone is one way or the other is phobic and most of the phobia is
cultivated and conditioned by society to keep the people supposedly morally and
ethically upright. The greatest poison which would remain as a stumbling block
in our journey towards perfection is phobia. Fear for something would create aversion,
depression and a complete detachment for the particular thing. As it is said true
learning would happen in a mind which is completely devoid of fear and anxiety.
There are various kinds of phobia listed by the psychologists, and in one way
or the other those are cultivated, strengthened and conditioned by society,
what was initiated by parents at the early stages of the upbringing of the
child.
In
the wake of the number of psychological disorders and phobia observed in the
adult and the young, psychologists were forced to find the root cause of all
these and they found that is all because of bad parenting and socialization. Good
parenting is an art and that all couples may not possess that art. Parenting
has to be scientific and formal in order not to cultivate any kinds of phobia
in the young minds which will have a lasting ill effect in the mental and
psychological composition of the child. This is the very reason parenting is
becoming increasingly challenging when kids are progressively more vulnerable
to phobia and psychological disorders. Thus, couples are given formal training
to parent a child and to inculcate right values and to create a free mind
devoid of all kinds of phobia and anxiety.
True, a parent that would worry about their kid falling down from a particular balcony grill might stop them from playing around in places that are at a certain height. This might lead to the kid getting acrophobia at a very young age. Over protective parents who care too much are sometimes the reason. As and when the child grows up, he might be going places with his other friends who have to be daredevils themselves to make him a man. If parenting fails, friends will make us what we are :)
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