The Balancing Act that Every Man should know for a Happy and Successful Marriage

Married women always grumble that there is not much of remarkable changes occurring in the life of a married man in comparison to his bachelorhood. Whereas there are lots of changes such as social, cultural, professional, physiological and psychological happening in the case of a married woman compared to her spinsterhood.

But married women often do not understand the subliminal mental strain of balancing act that a married man has to play between his loving mother and romantic wife. If it is not at perfect equilibrium, there could be 'sparks' from both the sides, especially when he lives with his wife along with his parents in the same home. Some powerful 'spark' on either side, could be catastrophic even to bring about a break-off either to his biological relation or to married life.

The loving mother who gave birth to her son, and having brought him up physically, emotionally and financially, through all hardships that life threw at her, always wants him to protect her in her old age. The mother fears that after her son is married his undivided love for his mother gets divided among his mother and wife. The question that the mother would be haunted with is that who would get the good portion of his love and care, she or her daughter-in-law. Therefore, both of them are waging a war mentally.

If the good portion of his love and care is inclined towards his mother, his wife  tends to tell him that he is scared of his mother. If it is the other way around his mother is likely to tell him that he is 'henpecked'. Thus, the life of a married man is torn asunder and he finds himself between rock and hard place, at times putting himself in a dicey situation.

Perhaps, it was in this context that St. Paul had said it is better for a man to remain unmarried. But if he can’t control himself, he should go ahead and marry, as it is better to marry than to burn with lust.

Both mother and wife are equally important for the man, and both the parties are good in themselves and loving in nature. So it is crucial for the married man to learn the Balancing Act and maintain it at the perfect equilibrium between his mother and wife to succeed in his married life.

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