The
gender she belongs to and the unprecedented atrocities against her flock make
otherwise sweet girl to act stubborn and to be looked cruel. Annamika is the
epitome of the slogan ‘Survival of the Fittest’ and teaches us that a girl should
find ways to move forward in the patriarchal society which looks down woman as
an object where her subjectivity is being always challenged and at stake.
I
have been seeing Annamika since one year and she is found not talking to anyone,
not even people of her own gender. She is always in her own world and minds her
business. One day I happened to see Annamika
in the town, late at 8.30pm to catch her last bus to her village and she was
the only girl in the whole area, so to express my solidarity with her and to
make her comfortable that there is someone around her who knows her; I asked
her, You are the daughter of so and so right? And she gave a weird look and replied
with a high-pitched voice, YES I AM and I was flabbergasted and I had nothing
left to ask her. Thus, I put myself in an uneasy state trying to put someone at
ease.
Even
today I can remember it with a great horror and I have been always haunted with
that incident. However, I salute her for her audacity and heroism and I always
love girls who are daring and bold and so they should be. Annamika can’t be
blamed for her immediate reaction towards me because, for a girl every other
man is a predator (sexual assaulter) and moreover she did not know who I was though
we belong to the same village and same parish. The society and the atrocities
force the otherwise loving and gentle girl to act cruel in public. Patriarchal
society imposes a set of attributes on girl that she should be soft, loving and
caring as well as stereotypical notion being imposed on that how a girl should
be.
Truth
to be told, since then I have been scared to talk to Annamika as she looks serious
and very difficult to talk to. Sensing that I am not a predator, when we became
friends I asked her why was she appearing in a serious note always and not
found talking to anyone. Her instant reply was that it is always nice to be isolated
from everyone and give a serious look thus; no one would take undue advantage
and come to talk to her. Well, it is Annamika’s practical philosophy obviously
reinforced by the society and its atrocities against her flock.
After
becoming a friend of Annamika, my preconceived notion about her is being proved
wrong and I came to know that she is such a soft, loving, caring and fun-loving
girl. Annamika can’t display her true self so she is being forced to wear a mask
that gives her a serious appearance which would give her an extra protective
lair when she is in public. In order to survive and be in a safer side in the
world full of atrocities against her flock, she is being forced to act against
her natural will and character. For any girl to survive in this world unhurt,
she has to set aside her tender character and wear the cruel mask.
I
thought software engineer Annamika is very hard and difficult to talk to but
actually the software engineer is very soft, loving and caring. However, I am
not completely out of the shock of my life that talking to Annamika for the
first time at the bus stop. Even now I can talk to her only with an amount of fear
though the degree of fear is being reduced each time I talk to her. But later
on, I came to know that she is such an innocent girl but the ill treatment,
molestation and sexual assault against her flock force her to act cruel and stubborn
in a male dominant society.
Annamika
is just representing her flock which is being subjugated, marginalized and
always under constant threat and moreover Annamika’s story is not just an
isolated one as well.
(Dear Annamika, this blog is solely dedicated to you as you are the true inspiration for me to come up with this blog. Thank you very much indeed Annamika.)
every guy staring at us look like a predator only. so we don't like even being seen. after having faced so many molestations, bag snatching n dupatta snatching incidents, we only get angry at everyone and everything. Walking on roads has always been a big deal due to this. It hurts.
ReplyDeleteYes yes it is very difficult to remain not being reduced as an object. But of course there are guys who respect girls and better take care of them. What to do society is so.... So be on alert always dear.
DeleteThere are guys who respect girls..But the percentage is very less.So its better to close our eyes to things that we don't want to see...
DeleteThere are some girls who take advantage of innocent guys..So guys....you should beware of such girls..Pls watch this video.it's based on real incident...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nwi4FGAfskk
Well said Deepu, of course there are good and bad people in both the sides (in both genders) and we should be on vigil otherwise we might be in receiving end. Thank you for the video link shared
DeleteThere is no point in putting the blame on the society... Society is made up of individuals and it is the individual perception and attitude that has to be changed...Sanil, You are an exception, I know very well that you do respect girls and take care of them...but many just think of how to take advantage of ' paavam' soft, or loving nature of girls...And of course it hurts, irritates and insults when a stranger interfere in to a girls personal space and freedom
ReplyDeleteWell.. Aneena, it is true that the society is made up of individuals like you and I and we should be the channel of change and we can't expect that let the society change first then I would take my turn. Yes, I can understand how a girl is being treated and what it means to be a girl.
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